This Sunday: Don’t Treat God Like a Waiter

This Sunday’s Gospel (28th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Year A) tells of a great banquet God has in store for us — and warn us that if we take it for granted, we won’t be able to partake.

We are all probably familiar, at least from movies, with the attitude the upper class has toward their servants. The servant exists to serve, and the master expects to be served. This is the same attitude people tend to have toward restaurant wait staff. If you are kind about it, there is nothing wrong with that. That is what the waiter is being paid to do.

But in this Sunday’s Gospel, a “customer” in heaven learns the hard way not to treat his host like the waiter.

In the long version of the Gospel, Jesus tells the story about a commoner who is not dressed properly for a royal wedding feast.

“When the king came in to meet the guests,” says Jesus, “he saw a man there not dressed in a wedding garment. The king said to him, ‘My friend, how is it that you came in here without a wedding garment?’ But he was reduced to silence. Then the king said to his attendants, ‘Bind his hands and feet, and cast him into the darkness outside.’”

If that sounds harsh, then we need to understand the nature of the wedding garment. In the Ignatius Study Bible, Scott Hahn and Curtis Martin explain that the feast is the sacraments, and the “wedding garment” is prayer, alms and fasting.

First, the feast was in no way deserved by the attendees. The king had invited his royal guests and they had refused to come. Then he shared his menu with the invited and got less interest. Last he invited all to the feast. The guest lists are symbols of the Jews and Gentiles, or of the religious and the irreligious, but the result is the same: These at the banquet should in no way have felt entitled to the feast.

Second, the wedding feast was extravagant. This is a type of the heavenly banquet, which is described in our first reading as “a feast of rich food and choice wines, juicy, rich food and pure, choice wines.” Don’t imagine a cafeteria line; imagine a White House state dinner.

The proper attitude toward such a feast is humble gratitude and a willingness to do whatever is appropriate to be in such a place. Even Paul in today’s Second Reading points out that there is a certain behavior needed at a rich party: “I know indeed how to live in humble circumstances; I know also how to live with abundance. … I have learned the secret of being well fed and of going hungry.”

The king gives the errant guest a chance. When asked why he wasn’t dressed in a wedding garment, the man might have replied, “I am so sorry. I didn’t know. Let me fix it!” But the man said nothing.

But the guest got confused, it seems, about who was the King and who was the subject.

If we have the same attitude toward the Father in heaven that the prime minister of Belgium has toward the White House wait staff, we are doing God a great disservice.

The Eucharist is a rich and abundant feast, to which the proper response is “I am not worthy.” If we expect to receive the Eucharist without having confessed our serious sins, the King will reject us as certainly as he rejected the guest with no wedding garment.

We need to learn to behave in the way appropriate to the king’s table. If not, we will be out of place there. And that is one table where we want to feel right at home.

Photo: Whitehouse.gov

Tom Hoopes

Tom Hoopes

Tom Hoopes, author of The Rosary of Saint John Paul II and The Fatima Family Handbook, is writer in residence at Benedictine College in Kansas and hosts The Extraordinary Story podcast about the life of Christ. His book What Pope Francis Really Said is now available on Audible. A former reporter in the Washington, D.C., area, Hoopes served as press secretary of the U.S. House Ways & Means Committee Chairman and spent 10 years as executive editor of the National Catholic Register newspaper and Faith & Family magazine. His work frequently appears in Catholic publications such as Aleteia.org and the Register. He and his wife, April, have nine children and live in Atchison, Kansas.